Awe?

Experiencing a sense of awe occurs when people encounter things that are large and vast – such as walking among tall trees – transcending their current understanding of the world. These experiences have been shown to lead people to be more altruistic, less entitled, humbler, and more aware of others.

Live Well in 2024!

We all want to feel better, look better, and live as if we are a finely tuned instrument, or well-maintained vehicle. Here are some tips I’ll share to get you started on the road to feeling, looking, and living better and increasing your chances for enjoying life. Your age is just a number fight, fight, fight! 1. Smile. Researchers at Harvard found that people with positive attitudes are more likely to have fewer heart ailments. 2. Take Monday Off. Researchers in New York found that missing a few days of work lowers your risk for stroke by 30 percent…not to mention most heart attacks occur on Monday morning! 3. Eat Oatmeal Cookies. University of Connecticut researchers found that eating oat-bran cookies daily can lower your LDL cholesterol by 20 percent. 4. Go To Bed Early. People who are fatigued have high levels of fibrinogen, a blood-clotting protein that reduces blood flow to your heart and brain. 5. Wash Your Hands. German scientists found people with high levels of antibodies from fighting infections also had more clogging of their arteries. 6. Read A Good Book. Need I say more? 7. Meditate 30 Minutes A Day. Researchers at Thomas Jefferson University found meditation may reduce depression and anxiety by up to 25 percent. 8. Drink Cranberry Juice. People who drink 8 ounces of cranberry juice a day increase their HDL cholesterol levels by 10 percent…reducing heart risk by 40 percent, according a New Jersey study. 9. Bike Your Blues Away. Biking was found to be as effective at relieving depression as antidepressants reported Duke University researchers. 10. Join A Group. People who have a circle of friends handle stress better and have less heart disease, according to University of Chicago researchers.

Clear the Mind with Meditation

Meditation has long been touted for reducing stress and increasing mental clarity, but it’s also been shown to help with physical ailments like fibromyalgia, inflammatory bowel disease, and rheumatoid arthritis. Making a conscious effort to clear your mind can be easier said than done, but even the unconvinced can start a meditation practice today.  You don’t have to sit still. If you feel restless when sitting, try walking while meditating. Take slow, calculated steps. Remain aware of the sensation in your feet each time you lift and set them back down.  You don’t need a silent location. If there are noises around you, then notice and acknowledge sounds you hear while meditating.  You don’t have to go it alone. Many apps help guide beginners through the meditation process. Headspace (headspace.com) and Calm (calm.com) lead users through a daily 10-minute sessions.

Home Makeover Ideas

You can makeover your living space with these simple decorating tips: 1. Change your color palette. You can choose neutral and earth tones, such as whites, tans, beiges, and golds. A room of monotone decors appears more spacious. And you can dress up a room with white walls, a white sofa, and white or glass coffee tables with accented throw pillows, colorful table runners and placements, and decorative rugs. 2. Soften the lighting. Lighting adds warmth and drama to any room. A lamp or sconce lighting will provide more warmth and mood than overhead lighting. In your rooms, place your lamps and lighting arrangements so that they form a triangle of light in the room. 3. Rearrange the furniture. Try moving your sofas away from the wall. You can place two sofas in “V” formation with tables behind them. Or you can arrange the sofas so that they’re parallel to each other. Placing a rug between them creates a conversation area. 4. Create a focal point. Select a special focal point in your room: a piano, piece of art, picture, or floral arrangement. Make sure to hang your art and pictures at eye level. (Many people hang them too high.) 5. Create warmth. You can transform your dining room by adding lamps on each side of the buffet. Be sure to choose tall, sleek lamps to add drama to your dining area. 6. Experiment with ideas. Don’t be afraid to experiment with light, color, and furnishings. Use your own personality and charm to create the living space you’ll enjoy entertaining and spending time with your family. If you are in the market for a buying or selling a home and need competent and caring representation, please call me at 206-226-0565.

Ready In An Emergency

It’s always a good idea to have an emergency preparedness kit ready to grab at a moment’s notice. Some items are standard, regardless of who you are or where you live, such as a flashlight, first aid kit, and multi-purpose tool. Consider the specific needs of those in your family and geographical location as well. Find pre-made lists and help in building an emergency kit at ready.gov/kit and redcross.org.

Negotiation on the Job

Would you like to improve your job negotiation skills? A recent survey conducted by the Society of Human Resources Management and CareerJournal.com, found that both employees and HR specialists are willing to talk about salary, but they differ on other issues. Employees focus on bonuses, incentives, and time off, while HR specialists may be more willing to talk about flex schedules and relocation costs. (The survey indicated employees may have more negotiating power on non-salary issues.) Here are six valuable tips you can use for better negotiating on your job: • Make sure to show your enthusiasm for the job at hand. • Know your strengths and skills and explain why you’re the best person for the new job or raise. • Use the right words and cite facts, “I’ve done the research, and the market reflects this salary.” • Ask for what you want, and explain why you deserve it. • Be open to what is presented and remain objective. • Avoid talking about specific salary figures until the end the interview process; otherwise you may limit your options.

Stronger Family Bonds

The good news is there are quick and easy ways to strengthen your family and promote each other’s personal growth. 1. Make Family Your First Priority. Strong families spend lots of quality time together. We’ve all heard the well-known quote, “How do kids spell love?” T-I-M-E! Strong families spend lots of positive time working on family projects and playing together. 2. Appreciate One Other. Strong families appreciate each other’s unique qualities and contributions and express their feelings openly. Make a commitment to compliment each other at least once each day. 3. Foster Communication. Strong families listen to each other, respect each other’s opinions, and avoid interrupting. One of the most valuable ways to foster communication is by having at least one meal together each day. Do your best to set an example by putting away your phone or computer during meal time. 4. Strengthen Commitment. Strong families work together to solve their problems. They may not always agree, but they are willing and able to bring things out into the open and to talk about them. 5. Create Traditions. Strong families stay connected – another reason for having at least one meal together each day. Also, give your children the gift of friendship with their cousins, aunts, and uncles by keeping in touch regularly. 6. Set Rules and Expectations. Strong families set and put into practice clear guidelines and limitations. Family members take responsibility for their actions. Give grace and grace will follow.

Paramount Theater Tours

The Paramount opened in 1928 and welcomes over 450,000 patrons each year. The Paramount was restored to its original splendor in 1995 after many years of neglect and deferred maintenance. Enjoy a free tour of this historic theater the first Saturday of every month from 10:00am to noon. No appointment needed, just show up in front of the theater a few minutes early and enjoy a glimpse behind the scenes. www.stgpresents.org

Lake Washington Trivia

Prior to the construction of the Lake Washinton Ship Canal in 1916 the lake was drained by the Black River at the south end of the lake. The level of the lake dropped 9 feet with the opening of the canal and the Black River dried up. Today part of its bed forms the Black River Riparian Forest and Wetland.

This American Life

It is a weekly hour-long production that I rarely miss. When I am on a walk, on a long drive, or working on the landscaping at Arbor Heights Community Church I enjoy the wide variety of topics and love the style of narration. They have put out over 800 shows, and all are available on your favorite podcast platform.

Cleaning With Cola

Did you know the cola in your fridge is also a great household cleaner? Here are some everyday uses for it: • Remove rust stains by scrubbing with cola using aluminum foil, then wipe clean. • Remove oil stains from pavement by soaking them in cola for 15 minutes, then scrubbing. • Remove gum from surfaces by soaking it with cola for a few minutes, then scraping it with a blunt knife.

People who Walk Regularly Live Longer

If you don’t follow any other exercise program, just simple outdoor walking could add many healthy years to your life.  A Brisk Walk Is Best. You should be able to carry on a conversation and have your breathing slightly elevated.  It’s Easy—Just Walk 20 Minutes A Day. Start slowly, and then build up to longer, faster paced walks. Stretch your muscles (especially the calves and hamstring muscles) before and after you walk. For the best benefit, make a commitment to walk everyday. A recent study in Germany found that walking just two hours a week can cut your risk of heart disease in half!  Walking Relieves Stress And Invigorates Your Mind And Body. Walking will make your heart stronger, improve your lung capacity, and the efficiency of your breathing. Walking circulates more oxygen through your body and is very effective in lowering your blood pressure. A regular walking routine can be your best preventative medicine – greatly lowering your risk of stroke, diabetes, osteoporosis, high blood pressure, and even depression.  People Who Walk Live Longer. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention conducted an 11-year study of 2,896 adults in their late 50’s who had been diagnosed with diabetes. Researchers found those subjects who walked just two hours a week had a 39 percent lower death rate from all causes! They speculate that if every healthy person in the United States walked briskly just 30 minutes a day, the incidence of many chronic diseases would go down 30 to 40 percent. So grab your shoes and get walking…your body will be glad you did!

How to Ask for Help

Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you realize you need a little help but you’re still feeling uncomfortable asking for it. Figure out what you need help with. Be as specific as possible. You might be frustrated and just thinking, “I can’t figure this stupid project out”—but your helper will need to know exactly what the hurdle is if they’re to be of any use. Think about a piece of information, for instance, that might unlock a clear path to completion, and then seek out someone who can help provide that information. Skip “sorry.” When you apologize first, it sends the message that what you’re asking for is burdensome, when studies show most people genuinely want to help others. It may feel polite to start with “sorry,” but resist the urge. Think of “help” as a team effort. Asking for help usually isn’t about asking for someone to swoop in and rescue you—it’s about getting their help with something you’ll work on together. Collaborating on a solution often produces better results—a second set of eyes on a challenging problem can give you insights you’d never have reached alone. Say thank you. Gratitude is powerful stuff, so be sure to express yours when you’ve gotten someone’s help. Saying “thank you” verbally is a must, and it’s also extremely good practice to send a note to them later on with an update on the problem you sought their help with.

Exercise: Saving vs. Splurging

It’s common wisdom that staying fit is a good idea, but physical health can sometimes come at a hefty price. Here are some tips to help you stay both physically and fiscally fit at the same time this New Year. Worth the Splurge • Shoes: Cheap or ill-fitting shoes can cause long-term damage to your feet, legs, and back, negating any up-front savings. • Sports Bras: Especially for larger-chested women, a good sports bra can prevent chafing and back pain. • Personal Trainers and Nutritionists: One-on-one time with a pro can be the motivation you need to work toward your goals. Save on These Things • Most Workout Clothing: Inexpensive athletic tank tops and tees abound at discount retailers, and don’t overlook the gently used options at Goodwill or other thrift stores. • Fitness Trackers: Chances are, these offer many more features than you truly need. There are plenty of free smartphone apps that track calories, miles run, and even provide free fitness classes.

Memory Boosters!

Have you misplaced your keys again? If you’re like most people, it’s an occasional annoyance. But if it’s happening more frequently than you’d like to admit, maybe it’s time for some memory boosters to help strengthen your mind. Here are five easy tips to improve your memory power: 1. Keep Items Where You’ll Need Them. Keep your keys by the front door; eye glasses in the same place everyday, and wallet/purse in the same location. 2. Keep A Notebook With A Calendar. Keep names, phone numbers, important dates, medical information, to do lists, and a notepad. Carry it with you (or carry a small notepad), so you can jot down information as needed. 3. Minimize Distractions. Focus on one thing at a time. Turn off the TV or radio when you need to focus your attention on a task. 4. Exercise Your Mind. Read, do crossword puzzles, play cards, chess, or a musical instrument to keep your mind active. Watch television shows like Jeopardy. 5. Take Care Of Your Body. Go for a walk, swim, or bicycle. It’ll clear your mind. And remember to eat a balanced diet and get enough rest!

Help Your Pets Long And Healthy Life

Most pet owners would say that pets are important members of the family. We welcome them into our lives knowing we’ll most likely outlive them- but we can help them have the best possible life.  Maintain a healthy weight. Feed pets the proper type and amount of food. Avoid feeding fatty human foods to your furry friends.  Exercise regularly. Dogs need regular walks every day, and time to run around. Indoor cats live longer than outdoor cats, but they should have stimulating toys and room to play and exercise too.  Schedule regular vet visits. Regular health screenings (at least once a year for healthy adult animals) allow vets to detect and manage diseases early. Keep vaccinations updated.  Keep teeth clean. Tartar, gingivitis, plaque, and other problems with teeth and gums can lead to other health problems. Try making your own toothpaste with coconut oil and baking soda, and your dog will enjoy his brushing time. The Veterinary Oral Health Council publishes a list of accepted oral health products to help with dental care as well (http://www.vohc.org/accepted_products.htm).  Note behavioral changes. If pets aren’t following their normal routines, this may be a sign that something isn’t right. Don’t wait too long before checking with a vet about abnormal behavior.  Chill out. Even pets need time and space on their own, so make sure they have at least a couple hours a day to relax.

Stop Procrastinating

Procrastinating is a learned behavior. The good news is that it can be combated, as long as you’re focused on how to prevent it. Here are 5 steps to help you stop procrastinating and get in gear this New Year. 1. Get Rid of Distractions – Turn off the phone, shut the door, put on headphones, whatever it takes to drown out tempting diversions. 2. Break Tasks Into Chunks – Things like “wash dishes, do laundry, and vacuum” are more specific, and chances are you’ll be more apt to tackle those tasks than the gargantuan-sounding “clean the house.” 3. Do Your Hardest Task First – The sense of accomplishment when you complete the biggest item on your list first will help propel you forward toward crossing off more things on your list. 4. Perfect is the Enemy of Done – Keep in mind that if you’re only striving for perfection, you’re less likely to even start a project. 5. Reward Yourself – Give yourself a pat on the back for getting stuff done, whether the reward is a night out or simply a favorite treat.

Walk Your Way To Weight Loss!

Would you like to get more exercise, but just can’t find the time? The America on the Move (AOM) program at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center says there’s an easy way to get moving. You can lose weight, and increase your energy by wearing a pedometer. A pedometer helps you monitor how much exercise you’re getting each day. More exercise adds up to weight loss and an increase in your energy. Just by adding about 2,000 steps a day to your daily activities and eating 100 calories less, (about what’s in a slice of bread), you’ll begin to see results. Every step counts and you can see them adding up. You’ll be more likely to park farther away from work or the store in the parking lot. You could take a short walk after dinner in the evening. And it’s EASY...no trips to the gym, no exercise equipment to buy, and you can monitor how much exercise you’re getting during the day.

3 Easy Self-Care Tips

In order to remain productive, focused, and able to care for others, it’s important to care for yourself first. 1. Stay hydrated. Even mild dehydration can be detrimental to mood and mental cognition, according to University of Connecticut’s Human Performance Laboratory researchers. Drink about a half gallon of water a day. 2. Care for plants. Being around plants can increase memory retention up to 20%, according to a University of Michigan study. 3. Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep enhances learning and problem-solving skills, and helps you pay attention and make decisions. The average adult needs 7-8 hours per day.

Work Productivity

Many believe the more hours they work, the more they achieve, but productivity plummets after working 50 hours in a week. Take action with these tips to get the most out of your work day.  Set time rules. Note what isn’t working with the way you spend your time (such as too many distractions from technology), then set guidelines to protect it. For example, if reading e-mail first thing in the morning throws off the rest of your to-do list for the day, make a commitment not to open it until a certain time or until other tasks are completed.  Take breaks. Productivity app DeskTime found that the most productive people work for 52 minutes then take a break for 17 minutes.  Focus your energy. Avoid spreading your attention too thinly. Instead, work in bursts by focusing intently on a single task or project, and then relax completely for a set amount of time (15 minutes usually works well).

5 Ways to Improve Your Credit Rating

A good credit rating is essential in today’s economic market. It can save you thousands of dollars when you apply for a mortgage, car loan, or when you want to finance any other big-ticket purchase. Here are six tips for improving your credit rating: 1. Check your credit report. Make sure to resolve any credit debt inaccuracies or disputes. Go to www.AnnualCreditReport.com for information on how to order your credit report. 2. Pay your bills on time. It’s especially important near the time you are applying for a loan. 3. Pay down, or pay off your credit cards. High debt will adversely affect your credit rating. 4. Don’t apply for new credit cards to increase your available credit. 5. Pay down your revolving debt. Also, pay down your debt rather than moving it around. 6. Manage your credit cards and installment loans responsibly. Paying with credit cards and installments loans promptly will actually raise your credit rating.

5 Fitness Myths

Here are five fitness myths and the facts you should know so you can choose the fitness regimen that’s right for you. Fiction: No pain; no gain. Fact: While you may feel sore a day or two after working out, you shouldn’t feel real pain. If something hurts, stop and rest. If the pain persists, don’t work through it. Talk to your doctor instead. Fiction: Lifting weights will bulk you up. Fact: Weight training forces your muscles to work 10 to 20 times more than cardio. But bulking up comes from high calorie intake. You can tone your muscles by combining weight training with a moderate diet. Fiction: If you work out every day, you can eat anything you want. Fact: If only it were true! To burn fat, you need to expend more calories than your body uses. While personal metabolisms vary, the answer is to eat a balanced diet – including on rest days – to fuel your body, and to exercise regularly to feel better physically, mentally and emotionally. Fiction: You’ll lose weight if you exercise and eat a low-carb diet. Fact: Carbs are essential if you want to do strength training, cardio or almost any sport. Without them, you won’t perform as well or recover as effectively between training sessions. Fiction: You can spot reduce one area of your body. Fact: Working out can reduce overall body fat, but you can’t control where that fat comes from. What does work is to burn as much fuel as you can with a good overall exercise program and a healthy diet.

Donating Clothes And Accessories

Is it time for a wardrobe facelift? Before hauling your old clothes away to the same secondhand store or tossing them in the trash, consider these options. Blue jeans: Old blue jeans donated through bluejeansgogreen.org will be turned into insulation in communities that need it most. Shoes: Both soles4souls.org and oneworldrunning.com accept gently worn shoes to donate to people in need around the world. Wedding and formal dresses: Most people only wear formal clothing a few times, so if your wedding dress or formal gowns are still in great condition, pass them on! Soon-to-be-military brides are on the receiving end at bridesacrossamerica.com, and Project G.L.A.M. (wgirls.org) provides teenage girls with prom dresses. Eyeglasses: If you’ve updated your prescription lately, donate old frames and lenses to new-eyes.org, where they’ll be passed on to someone who can’t afford new eyeglasses.

Help Kids Save Money

All adults know that money doesn’t grow on trees, but that’s not necessarily true for kids. Help your kids, grandkids, or other children in your life tuck away their extra nickels and dimes for a rainy day. 1. Bank it. Encourage kids to decorate four separate piggy banks – one each for Saving, Spending, Investing, and Giving – to help teach about setting money-related goals. Investing money will be used for future investments and Giving money can be donated to a charity of the kids’ choice. 2. Offer an allowance. Assuming you are helping your own children save money, provide a small allowance so there is something to put into the piggy banks. Give the allowance in small bills or coins so kids can physically hold and drop equal amounts of cash into each piggy bank. 3. Make goals. If there are certain things kids want to buy, or if they are expected to save a certain amount of money toward larger items such as bikes, explain that they’ll need to use the Saving piggy bank to collect the needed money. And, if they choose not to spend money out of the Spending piggy bank right away, they’ll be able to buy the items they’re saving for faster. 4. Go shopping. When you go to the store, let the kids take their Spending money with them. If they want to buy something, count out change in the store. Feel free to remind them that, if there is something more expensive they’d like to buy, they’ll have to continue to save for it – and they’ll reach their goals faster by moving Spending money into the Saving piggy bank. However, if they want to buy something, that is their choice as this is their money.

Relationship Tips

A happy, healthy relationship with your significant other doesn’t ride on fancy flowers, heart-shaped chocolates, and an annual celebration on your anniversary. In fact, sometimes it’s the small things that mean the most in a relationship with your loved one. Start small with these ideas. Set the smartphone down. Offer your undivided attention with time set aside for the two of you – no phones allowed! Perhaps this is over dinner in the evenings, in the bedroom, or on a once-a-week date night out (or in). Say thank you. Don’t take your partner for granted. Acknowledge and appreciate even the small things like cooking dinner or doing the dishes. Do something he/she likes to do. Embrace your partner’s differences. Next time you choose a movie together or look for a weekend activity, get out of your comfort zone and try something that’s not generally your style. And, the time after that, encourage your partner to do the same.

Stress Relieving Tips

When we’re stressed, we’re less able to focus and we’re doing damage to our overall health. Here are some science-based methods for de-stressing quickly. • Breathe – Stress makes us take short breaths. Concentrate on deep breaths through the nose, exhaling through the mouth, for several minutes to increase oxygen flow and reduce tension. • Pattern Reset – Forcing your brain to focus on something else, such as the repetitive task of doing dishes or knitting, can help get your mind off whatever’s bothering you. • Go for a Walk – Not only will a 10-minute walk physically remove you from any stressful situation, the exercise releases stress-relieving endorphins in your brain. Dancing to your favorite song works, too. • Take an e-Break – We love technology, but it can also cause a huge amount of stress. Turn off your phone or computer to increase your ability to relax, and don’t leave your email inbox open all day. • Have a Snack – It’s important to be mindful about snacking (stress eating is nobody’s friend), but some nibbles can be helpful. Potassium can help modulate blood pressure, which can in turn reduce stress levels, so have a banana. Something like a handful of nuts offers a satisfying crunch and the energy your brain needs to get past the stress.

Strengthen Your Immunity Against Colds & Flu

Don’t let a COLD or FLU get to YOU this season. The human body has many ways to naturally fight infection, but you need to give it all the help you can. Here’s how to boost your immunity and fight off those nasty germs:  Eat healthy food. Load up on fresh fruits and veggies like leafy greens. Avoid sugar because it can interfere with the enzymes you need to boost your immune system.  Supercharge your body. Your body can naturally kill a virus. So spring into action during the first 24 hours to combat illness. Once you feel a few symptoms, start drinking filtered water, broths, and soups with lots of garlic, onions, and spices. Take supplements like echinacea, vitamin C, and elderberry.  Breathe clean air. Avoid smoking, air pollutants, indoor dust, and ash from fireplaces that can irritate the lining of your nose and throat.  Avoid sick people. It sounds obvious, right? But it’s easy to forget. Try not to be in the same room, breathing the same air as someone ill for long. Wash your hands frequently and disinfect everything they touch.  Get a flu shot. The Centers For Disease Control & Prevention recommends that everyone who is at least 6 months old get the seasonal flu vaccine. It protects against 3 flu viruses that research indicates will be most common during the upcoming season.

Find a Healthy Dose of Hope

With a healthy dose of hope, people can power through stress, feel empowered to chase their dreams, and find a beacon of light when the going gets tough. Research has shown that hopeful patients heal faster and hopeful employees are more satisfied with their jobs. Conversely, people who aren’t hopeful often feel sluggish and have little motivation and energy. So how can you amp up the hope in your life? Read on! Seek mastery: Obtaining mastery provides a sense of empowerment and purpose, instilling a sense of hope. Expand your skill set by imagining what you want to achieve and make plans to reach those goals. Write down steps you need to follow to get the results you seek. Find role models: If you suffer from a sense of hopelessness, find people who have overcome similar situations to yours. Learn from their experiences. Surround yourself with others who can help you through particularly trying times. If you don’t know anyone personally, check projecthopeexchange.com for support. Evaluate options: Feeling trapped can stifle hope. During those times when you feel stuck, think about how you’ve handled similar situations in the past or how similar strategies from different situations can help you with this particular issue. Make a plan…even a few steps you can take right now can give you something concrete to focus on. Give hope to others: Perform small acts of kindness. By doing so, you offer hope to others, and this can help boost your mood and outlook on life … and increase your feelings of hope in the process. The positive effects of acts of kindness build on each other, so make this a part of your daily routine instead of following a one-and-done approach.

Travel Complaints

Have a bad travel experience? Follow these tips to make your complaint heard: DON’T…  Relate every little thing that went wrong. You’ll sound like a whiner and the travel company won’t know which point to address. Just hit the “high” points that are most important to you.  Tell them a sob story. It’s unfortunate that you’re on a fixed income and you need the refund, but so are lots of other travelers.  Copy everyone in the world, including the CEO, the Better Business Bureau and your grandmother.  Threaten to sue or never to do business with the company again. A) Your letter may end up in the Legal Department; B) you don’t want to be labeled as a “difficult” customer; and C) you may have to use them again (for example, your family wants to take that cruise line). DO… • Put your complaint in writing, whether by email or letter, but keep it short and professional, without rage. Take the high road and tell them you’re looking for reasons to do business with them again. • Include any documentation. List exact times, places, names and dates. You’d be surprised how many people forget the most relevant details. • Give the system time to work. You may have to write a second letter or email if you don’t get a response in a reasonable period of time. But if you were legitimately disserviced, the airline or travel company will take you seriously and want to make it right.

Bring Serenity To Your Home

Our homes should be our sanctuaries year-round – a place in which to escape, recharge, and reenergize for whatever may come our way. Discover a few ways to bring serenity to your home, without breaking the bank: • “A place for everything, and everything in its place” isn’t just a saying, but a way of living. Reducing clutter in your home alleviates anxiety, helps you sleep better, and encourages a happier environment. • Carve out some space for a reading nook, whether it’s a comfy chair tucked into a corner, a window seat with fluffy pillows, or a chaise with a throw blanket for a warming embrace. Flip on a nearby lamp and you’re ready to dive into the latest novel for some quiet “you” time. • Bring the outdoors in with fresh flowers, potted plants, or an armful of tree limbs loosely arranged in a tall vase. Glimpsing these bits of nature within your home will boost your mood, reduce stress, and make for a healthier, happier you.

Coffee Is Good For You

Studies show that black coffee – in moderation (no more than 5 cups a day) – can be good for your health. Here are four benefits you probably haven’t considered: 1. Coffee contains nutrients and antioxidants such as riboflavin, pantothenic acid, manganese, potassium, magnesium and niacin. These are all things your body needs to function well. 2. It also contains caffeine. Caffeine speeds up your metabolism and aids in fat burning. Health.com says it may protect brain cells from damage that contributes to the development of Parkinson’s, dementia, and Alzheimer’s. Avoid it, however, at least four hours before bedtime, or if you have caffeine sensitivity. 3. Drinking one or two cups per day can reduce your risk of cardiovascular and liver disease, as well as lower your risk of developing type 2 diabetes. 4. Coffee may fight depression and make you happier. But, seriously, try to hold off on the venti white chocolate mocha lattes.

On The Job Negotiation

Would you like to improve your job negotiation skills? A recent survey conducted by the Society of Human Resources Management and CareerJournal.com, found that both employees and HR specialists are willing to talk about salary, but they differ on other issues. Employees focus on bonuses, incentives, and time off, while HR specialists may be more willing to talk about flex schedules and relocation costs. (The survey indicated employees may have more negotiating power on non-salary issues.) Here are six valuable tips you can use for better negotiating on your job: • Make sure to show your enthusiasm for the job at hand. • Know your strengths and skills and explain why you’re the best person for the new job or raise. • Use the right words and cite facts, “I’ve done the research, and the market reflects this salary.” • Ask for what you want, and explain why you deserve it. • Be open to what is presented and remain objective. • Avoid talking about specific salary figures until the end the interview process; otherwise you may limit your options.

Off-Season Rates

This is a great time to explore some of our states beautiful resort properties for a substantial discount. We can still get nice days and with fewer tourists you can appreciate these resorts without the big crowds. • Suncadia Resort – This time of year enjoy their walking trails, winery, drives to Salmon La Sac and explore historic Roslyn. • Semiahmoo Resort – This time of year walk the beaches, build a raging fire, on a nice day rent a boat, or day trip to Vancouver BC. • Sun Mountain Lodge – The fall views will be amazing right now! Horse drawn carriage rides or a hiking adventure. • Quinault Beach Resort – Ocean Shores is a nice place to be even if it rains. Enjoy a long walk or take a drive on the beach. • Bandon Dunes Golf Resort – Top golf resort in the nation. This time of year the winds usually slow down a little. I been there in the winter several times. There is not a bad time to be at Bandon!

Money Buddy

That’s what Trent from “The Simple Dollar” blog calls someone close to you who seems to be facing similar financial challenges as you are. While a spouse is certainly a “money buddy,” it’s helpful to choose someone else (with a spouse’s okay) who can lend a different perspective. By linking up with that person (or a couple), you can support each other and benefit financially and psychologically. Here are 5 things you can do for each other: Relieve tension and talk it out. Most of us keep our financial problems to ourselves. You’ll ease your stress if you have someone you trust to talk to. How much information you share is up to you. Give and get advice from fresh eyes. When you’ve reached a point of financial indecision (“Which debt do I pay off first?” “What bank should I use?”), a money buddy is a second set of eyeballs to look at the situation. Hold each other accountable for goals. If you set a goal for yourself, share it with your buddy and remind each other of your goals regularly. Knowing your buddy knows your goal can be a great motivator. Share knowledge and resources. Split the cost of a warehouse shopping club membership or divide the items you buy in bulk. Celebrate each other’s progress and successes. It’s even more gratifying when you take the journey together.

Eliminate House Smells

Smell: Musty or “old home.” Problem: Mold that may be due to poor ventilation in rooms, leaking plumbing, or condensation buildup on windows. Solution: Small amounts of mold can be cleaned with soap and water. Smell: Smoke, sour milk, pet urine, and similar smells. Problem: A variety of smells become absorbed by carpets and paint. Solution: Deep clean carpets and walls. Consider repainting walls. Replace air filters on a frequent basis. Smell: Rotting animal. Problem: Common areas in the home where animals may have snuck in and died are in the attic, wall, or chimney, or under the house. Solution: Remove the carcass yourself or call a pest control company (follow your city’s sanitation guidelines). Use a commercial product to help eliminate lingering odors.

Improve Work Releationships

There is a good reason to get along with co-workers: Liking other employees consistently ranks among the highest factors in determining job satisfaction. This isn’t always easy, however. If some of your work relationships could use a little sprucing up, try these tips: 1. Respect time. Avoid hovering around your colleagues’ work areas if they’re on the phone or speaking with someone else, and respect their professional/personal life balance by keeping work issues at work. 2. Avoid gossip. Office politics and the rumor mill can run rampant, and the best thing you can do is to avoid any conversation that is irrelevant to your job. You never know whom you will have to work with – or for – in the future, so do your best to remain professional to everyone. 3. Be polite. The Golden Rule of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you goes a long way in a professional setting. Say hello and thank you, smile, hold doors open for others, and clean up after yourself. 4. Show concern. It is not your job to solve personal problems, but keep in mind your co-workers are people too. Be mindful that others may be having a bad day or issues beyond the boardroom. If you feel comfortable, it’s okay to check in to make sure everything is alright. 5. Welcome the newcomers. Do you remember your first awkward day of work? Make someone else’s first day on the job easier by smiling and introducing yourself. 6. Follow up and communicate. Simple communication goes a long way in helping to facilitate good relations and clear up misunderstandings. Make yourself approachable so others feel they can discuss work-related projects with you. Managers need to set clear expectations with their employees so there is no question about what is expected from each person.

Over-Extending On Your Home?

Are you “house-rich but cash-poor”? In other words, you spend so much on your mortgage (and building equity) that you don’t have cash to spend on other needs.  Sell your house and buy (or rent) something smaller. Sounds drastic, but it frees up assets and is particularly relevant if you are close to retirement age.  Refinance your current mortgage and pull out equity. Talk to John Porter at Mortgage Masters (206-954-8736 or john@mortgagemasterwa.com) to see if this option would be beneficial to you. He would love to help!  Look into a reverse mortgage (if you’re 62 or older). This lets you access your equity but there are up-front costs and you’ll want to remain in your house for the rest of your life. Talk to a financial planner to fully understand this option.

Stress Relieving Tips

When we’re stressed, we’re less able to focus and we’re doing damage to our overall health. Here are some science-based methods for de-stressing quickly. • Breathe – Stress makes us take short breaths. Concentrate on deep breaths through the nose, exhaling through the mouth, for several minutes to increase oxygen flow and reduce tension. • Pattern Reset – Forcing your brain to focus on something else, such as the repetitive task of doing dishes or knitting, can help get your mind off whatever’s bothering you. • Go for a Walk – Not only will a 10-minute walk physically remove you from any stressful situation, the exercise releases stress-relieving endorphins in your brain. Dancing to your favorite song works, too. • Take an e-Break – We love technology, but it can also cause a huge amount of stress. Turn off your phone or computer to increase your ability to relax, and don’t leave your email inbox open all day. • Have a Snack – It’s important to be mindful about snacking (stress eating is nobody’s friend), but some nibbles can be helpful. Potassium can help modulate blood pressure, which can in turn reduce stress levels, so have a banana. Something like a handful of nuts offers a satisfying crunch and the energy your brain needs to get past the stress.

Home Maintenance this Fall

Fall is a great time to address home maintenance projects. It is tough to get a roofer out in the summer months but now you should be able to get a competitive bid. There is still time to tackle a painting project before it gets too cold, and the rain won’t stop. Landscaping projects in the fall months will pay off in the spring and look great all winter. Now is the time to get your furnace service competed for your peace of mind and you can make that furnace last by having it tuned up yearly. (Try Glendale Heating at 206-800-7354) If you want to invest in new windows do it now so you can enjoy lower heating bills and pay yourself back that much quicker. Adding additional insulation in attic and crawl spaces will make your home quieter and much easier to heat in the winter and cool in the summer. Fall is for home maintenance and Seahawks!

Retirement Financial Fears

Now is a great time to come up with a plan for retirement. You’ve worked tirelessly your entire life, and retirement is your time to finally and fully enjoy that hard-earned rest and relaxation. Unfortunately, not being able to afford retirement is a fear many people have. Get ahead of the game so you can rest easy.  Start saving now, at your current age. Establish a monthly budget that includes tucking money away for retirement.  Stick to the retirement plan. Do not withdraw money early for expenses if you have any other options.  Avoid borrowing, and keep debt to a minimum. If you need to borrow make yourself the lender and pay yourself interest.  Use a 401(k) plan to boost retirement savings. These plans allow funds to be invested directly from a paycheck before they’re subject to taxes.  Take advantage of company matching opportunities for retirement contributions.

Good Credit

Buying a home may seem like a complex process. That’s because it is! There are a lot of moving parts, one of which is the lending process. Did you know that lenders evaluate your financial status based on your credit history, your income (or ability to pay the loan), and your debt-to-income ratio? The main tool lenders use is your credit score because it gives them a quick picture of your credit history. Good credit health is critical to getting the loan you want. Call my preferred lender John Porter at Mortgage Masters at 206-954-8736 or john@mortgagemasterwa.com. He is here to help! • Credit age: Lenders will want to see a long credit history from a variety of financial institutions. Lenders love to see cards that have been open for a long time, even if you don’t use it today. Closing accounts when you pay off debt only lowers this score (sometimes just temporarily). Think about keeping some accounts open that you’ve had for a long period of time, even if you don’t use the card. • Credit card utilization: Financial institutions will want to see a credit card utilization below a certain range, though each has its own scale of what’s acceptable. It’s a good idea to use less than 30% of your available credit. Lenders want to see that you have a great history of paying down debt and keeping usage low. • A blemish-free history: Mortgage companies want to see that you’re able to repay loans. A missed payment will ding your credit score and show on your file for lenders to see. Always make payments on time. • Debt-to-income ratio: Your credit utilization figure, total debt, and your income will allow lenders to calculate your debt-to-income ratio. This allows them to assess risk by looking at your capacity to repay a further loan. That’s why it’s important to keep your file up to date and to keep your debt low. • Collateral: Lenders will want to see what kind of assets you have that could be used to repay the loan should you default. Collateral could be equity in a house or business. This will provide security against the loan and increase chances of a loan being approved.

Design With Simplicity

With home decor, the word “simplicity” may conjure images of starkly modern interiors with hard, polished surfaces and not much in the way of color. But simplicity can be a part of any design aesthetic—it’s just about the idea that “less is more.” First–clear the clutter. Clutter makes it difficult to focus, as your attention bounces around and can actually make you fell stressed. Next–ask yourself what the purpose of the room is. If it’s to relax in front the TV, start removing items that don’t add to that purpose. If it’s to sleep, maybe remove the TV and any other distracting items. Keep editing! Look at each item and remove any that don’t have a purpose. This clears floor space for ease of movement and helps you choose a few statement pieces that don’t compete with one another. So why choose simplicity? Rooms that incorporate simplicity feel more open, which can reduce stress and encourage relaxation. Spaces that are less cluttered are easier to clean, too, which means you spend less time cleaning and more time enjoying the room. An organized home also means sudden house guests don’t cause cleaning anxiety.

Selecting the Right Tree to Plant

Trees are a major landscaping feature for your home, and a major investment as well. Choosing the right tree for your yard is about much more than just what looks pretty in the garden center. Consider these factors before you start planting this spring. What is the tree’s job? You might want property border definition, a privacy screen, shade, brilliant fall colors, or fruit growing in your yard. Narrow your search to trees that fulfill your needs. What trees are best suited to your location? Don’t invest in a beautiful tree if it won’t thrive in your climate or the soil in your yard. Also keep in mind how much extra watering a tree will need, and when. Trees generally need more water in the first two years before they’re established. What kind of maintenance is involved? Leaves that turn bright colors every fall may be a vibrant focal point for your garden, but those leaves will also need to be raked up. Find out what a tree will need in each season, including any pruning and disease prevention. How much space can the tree occupy? Be aware of how large a tree will get when it’s mature, and plant accordingly. Even if you won’t be in your house 20 or 50 years in the future, careful planting today means future occupants won’t need to uproot the tree. The Arbor Day Foundation has a helpful “Tree Wizard,” where you answer some questions to find out what types of trees are right for you. (https://www.arborday.org/shopping/trees/treeWizard/intro.cfm)

5 Ways to Think Positively

How you approach life can affect your health, according to several studies by medical professionals. Positive people tend to have fewer health problems and live longer lives than pessimists. The good news is if you’re not typically the bubbly type, you can learn an optimist’s skills to help improve your health and how you feel. How to do it: 1. First, determine the things that make you feel the happiest. It might be spending time with positive friends or favorite family members, walking the dog, or watching a funny TV show. Helping others tends to help you feel better too. 2. Next, schedule one of those things in every day’s agenda. Make it a necessary part of your day. 3. Focus on positive thoughts. When a negative thought arises, pause and find a way to spin it to the positive. Even if you don’t believe it at first, just thinking it or saying it aloud can affect your outlook. For example, change “No one wants to talk to me” to “I’ll find a way to talk to others at least once today.” 4. Make being healthier a priority. Exercise boosts your mood and has been proven to reduce stress, which can increase negativity in your life. A healthy diet makes your body and mind feel better, making it easier to be positive. 5. Avoid negative people. Nothing sidetracks a positive day like someone who always has something negative to say. It won’t happen overnight, but after practicing positivity for a few weeks you’re sure to have a better outlook.

Give With Confidence

GoFundMe.com is a fundraising site for people and projects raising money in the face of natural disasters, personal calamities, or other financial problems. Unfortunately, there are some unsavory folks hoping to claim money as well. Here’s how to know your money is funding a legitimate purpose:  Avoid campaigns with minimal information about specific issues or financial problems.  Perform a reverse image search on Google. Right click on the main photo and select “Search Google for Image.” If there are a lot of results, the photo was stolen and the campaign likely isn’t real.  Contact the fundraiser. Click on the little green envelope to send an email if you want clarification or have questions.

Make Doctor Visits More Productive

Going to the doctor can be a bit stressful, even if the reason for your visit is as simple as an annual check-up. It’s easy to become flustered once you’re in an exam room, and the questions you may have had in mind to ask your doctor can quickly disappear. You can make your next appointment a stress-free success with a bit of preparation. Try these tips: • Take notes: If you’re having specific symptoms, keep a journal of the day-to-day changes. Add details like what you eat, what time, changes in mood or appetite, as any little detail might be important. If you’re taking medications, include those as well so your doctor is fully informed. Make notes, too, of questions you have for your doctor – your visit is a two-way conversation and you want to maximize both your own time and your doctor’s. • Timing is everything: Delays at the doctor’s office can increase feelings of anxiety and nervousness. If you can, make appointments first thing in the morning. That could help you avoid the inevitable delays as doctors see other patients and appointment times run over. Try to make sure your day is as free as possible so you don’t stress about your next task if you end up waiting. • Be honest: Not being entirely honest or withholding information from your doctor can be a detriment to you and your health. Remember: your doctor is there to help you. If you find you have a hard time actually saying something you’re embarrassed about–try practicing it out loud in a mirror before your appointment. • Be flexible: You may have a specific treatment in mind when you go into your appointment, but your doctor is a professional. It’s a good idea to at least listen to all the options.

Signs Your Parents Need Help

The elderly population is expected to double by 2029. It’s a fact of life we have to face sooner or later: At some point, one or both of your parents, as independent as they seem to be, are going to need extra help at home. Approach the situation carefully, but keep an eye out for these early signs you may notice when you visit them.  Difficulty getting around. Are they having trouble with the stairs or getting in the shower or bathtub? There are adjustments you can make to their home to make it safer, such as removing small area rugs, installing grab bars in the shower and using nightlights to light the path to the bathroom.  Physical health issues. Are they making their doctor appointments? They may be limiting their social activities because they can’t hear or see as well as they should. Do they keep a list of their medications? Some older people are, in fact, over-medicated. Offer to go with them on one of their next appointments.  Forgetfulness. Do they remember things you talked about? Do you see unpaid bills on the table? Is the house clean and is the dirty laundry under control? Is there food in the refrigerator? Work with them on solutions, such as hiring a cleaning service or considering a meal delivery option. There are many resources available to help you help them. Check out sites such as the National Council on Aging (www.ncoa.org), www.care.com and www.agingcare.com. To engage their minds and keep them (or anyone over 50) up-to-date on aging issues, take a look at www.aarp.org.

Wax Paper

Here are just a few handy wax paper tricks to have up your sleeve. • It polishes chrome surfaces like sink faucets and shower fixtures. • It helps sticky things (like can openers, zippers, and irons) move more smoothly. • It attracts dust, so it’s a good stand-in for a dusting cloth. • It helps seal wooden kitchen utensils and cutting boards.

Donating Clothes And Accessories

Is it time for a wardrobe facelift? Before hauling your old clothes away to the same secondhand store or tossing them in the trash, consider these options. Blue jeans: Old blue jeans donated through bluejeansgogreen.org will be turned into insulation in communities that need it most. Shoes: Both soles4souls.org and oneworldrunning.com accept gently worn shoes to donate to people in need around the world. Wedding and formal dresses: Most people only wear formal clothing a few times, so if your wedding dress or formal gowns are still in great condition, pass them on! Soon-to-be-military brides are on the receiving end at bridesacrossamerica.com, and Project G.L.A.M. (wgirls.org) provides teenage girls with prom dresses. Eyeglasses: If you’ve updated your prescription lately, donate old frames and lenses to new-eyes.org, where they’ll be passed on to someone who can’t afford new eyeglasses.

Be Ready In An Emergency

It’s always a good idea to have an emergency preparedness kit ready to grab at a moment’s notice. Some items are standard, regardless of who you are or where you live, such as a flashlight, first aid kit, and multi-purpose tool. Consider the specific needs of those in your family and geographical location as well. Find pre-made lists and help in building an emergency kit at ready.gov/kit and redcross.org.

Get Ready For Exercise or Sports

Here are tips to avoid getting hurt when exercising or playing sports: • • Have A Fitness Test: A visit to your doctor is important if you are starting a new exercise program. Your doctor may find an undiagnosed heart condition or other disease that will require workout modifications. • Know Your Body: It sounds basic, but many fail to make adjustments to account for known body weaknesses. For example, if you have knee problems you may want to try a stationary bike instead of a treadmill. • Wear Proper Attire: Wear proper shoes that fit and grip the ground to avoid slipping or tripping. Workout clothes that keep you warm but not hot are best to avoid getting overheated and passing out. • Act Your Age: When you get excited about a new workout or sport, you can do too much, too quickly and push yourself too long. Work with a trainer, and make sure you’re using the correct technique. • Feed Your Muscles And Hydrate Your Body: A high protein meal one hour before your workout will give you the fuel you need to keep going. Thirty minutes before you exercise, drink about 16 ounces of water. Drink more water during your workout to replace the fluids you’re losing. • Know The Injury Warning Signs: If you have any of the following for more than 48 hours, see a physician: joint pain (including swelling, redness and heat), reduced range of motion, or numbness, and tingling.

Long Commute

The average commute to work is around 25 minutes long. Get the most out of yours.  Experiment with the route. Leave 10 minutes earlier or later to see if the traffic patterns change.  Get the most bang for your buck. Do the math and find out if it makes sense to drive or take public transportation – or even a combination of the two.  Make it fun. Listen to an audiobook or podcast, or find a friend to share the ride.

West Seattle Golf Course

I first played West Seattle in 1984 when I was a freshman at Nathan Hale HS. Back when I was young, they still had concrete pads with cutup tires for tee boxes. Back then condition at any of the city courses were suspect. If you go for a round today you will be very impressed! They keep the course in outstanding condition all year but by late spring it is ready to host a major tournament! The greens and fairways are super lush and healthy. The layout is one of my favorites because you rarely get a flat lie so you need to be able to hit a wide variety of shots so you never get bored. You better keep the ball below the hole too; they have some of the steepest greens that will test your skills and patience. It is even possible to putt off a couple of the greens when they have front pins…like 16 which I have done before. Golf season is finally here, so go play WSGC!! 206-935-5187

Adult Siblings

If you have siblings, count yourself lucky. These relationships are the longest-lasting family ties you’ll have. This can be tough for those who had rough sibling relationships growing up, but a recent study found two-thirds of people said a brother or sister was one of their best friends. It’s never too late to turn that special family relationship into one of your most treasured, especially around the holidays. People spend lots of effort improving friendships and romantic relationships, but a brother or sister may outlast all of those relationships. Don’t take a sibling relationship for granted. Research by West Virginia University shows people are more verbally aggressive with siblings than anyone else. Being aware of this and actively offering affectionate support goes a long way to strengthen familial ties. Also, don’t compare your sibling relationships with those of other people. These are your unique relationships, so shake off expectations. Siblings may not unconditionally confide in or spend every holiday with you, and that’s okay. Instead, enjoy the time spent together and conversations you do have. Focus on the good instead of what could be!

Life Skills

Teaching kids how to approach and solve life’s challenges is one of the biggest jobs parents face. Here are a few tips to help your children (or grandchildren) grow into self-sufficient and responsible adults: • Teach Kids To Look For Solutions. When kids are faced with a problem, have them identify several options and solutions. Then you can help them choose which solution works best. • Teach Kids Responsibility: Let kids know they are responsible for their actions. They have to do their homework, but you can offer them two “positive choice” options: Do you want to do it in 15 minutes or 30 minutes? Teach them how to organize, and give them the tools to stay organized (calendar, palm pilot, notebook). • Teach Kids How To Make Good Choices. Giving kids choices empowers them to make their own decisions. Have them weigh the pros and cons of their choice, and let them make the decisions. • Teach Kids How To Deal with Failure. Teach your children that failure is not personal, permanent, or pervasive (i.e. losing a soccer game doesn’t mean you’re bad at other things as well). Developing a positive explanatory style early in life will help your children live a happier, healthier and more successful adult life.

Keeping The Kitchen Organized

From that first bowl of cereal to the final midnight snack, kitchens are among the most used rooms in the house. Organize it now to make it easy to get around and find what you need later.  Separate dedicated areas. Keep areas for prepping, cooking, and storing food, and then keep similar items – such as baking equipment – together within each of these places.  Store items in clear containers. Small items like tea bags and gravy mixes should be stored with like items in a storage unit that can be easily identified with a quick peek.  Invest in risers and drawer dividers. It’s much easier to access cookware and dishes in cabinets if they’re sorted and stacked on risers. Ditto for small items separated using drawer dividers.  Think seasonally. If you don’t use that crock pot in the summer or the ice tea container in the winter, tuck them out of sight and out of mind until the proper season rolls back around.  Look for a lazy Susan. On countertops, they can be used for oils, spices, and other ingredients you might need at a moment’s notice. And in the pantry, use them to store cans, jars, and condiments.

Key To A Longer Life

According to Harvard’s School of Public Health, men who have lots of friends, social contacts, and relatives live longer, more satisfying lives. In a study of 28,000 men in their early 40s to late 70s, researchers found that men who were socially isolated loners were 20 percent more likely to die prematurely. The socially isolated group also was 53 percent more likely to die from heart related diseases and stroke. Unmarried men included in the study had markedly higher death rates than married men with a strong family support system did. It appears that making friends and nurturing social relationships not only will make you healthier, but it could make you a lot happier too!

Emails - Make the Most of Them

Estimates are that 269 billion emails are sent every day worldwide, many by professionals in a working environment. While you may know proper email etiquette, follow these tips to make sure your business emails aren’t deleted.  Use a concise, compelling subject line. “More information” and “new program” only ask the recipient to say “about what?” Better to say “Action Items On Project XYZ.” Say “urgent” if necessary.  Don’t use long lists of email addresses if the subject only pertains to some of them. Type the relevant addresses into the address line ("To" line) and use the BCC line for the others.  Keep your message to the point. Say why you’re writing within the first two lines and try to limit yourself to one topic. Using bullet points helps you organize your thoughts. Re-read or print your email out (if you have time) before you send it.  Be careful with humor and irony. Emails aren’t good at conveying emotions, and humor, inside jokes or over-used phrases don’t really build a dynamic business relationship. Avoid phrases like “can I pick your brain” (what are you offering in return?); or “please advise” (better to say “can we discuss this further?”).  Respect confidentiality. Should everyone read this?  As a recipient, do not “reply all” unless everyone needs to know. You know this but people still do it, sometimes accidentally.  Respond promptly. Don’t leave people hanging. Include your signature and phone number for follow-up.

How To Enjoy Your Own Company

Although the idea of “me time” has become more popular, there are people who equate being alone with loneliness—and no one wants that. Solitude can seem hard to find if you live in a busy city or a crowded house, but intentionally carving out time for yourself can have positive mental and physical health benefits. If, that is, you embrace being alone. Experts say that if being alone is your choice, you’re much more likely to enjoy the solitude and less likely to succumb to loneliness. But this doesn’t mean you have to become a hermit to be happy alone. It means you’re able to find happiness in solo pursuits of your choosing— exercising, birdwatching, creating art, or even working. If you struggle to do something you love when you’re alone, you may want to try an activity that boosts endorphin levels. After all, if you’re getting a happiness high from the activity, you’re more apt to do it again. Physical activity like gardening or beachcombing can work here (you don’t have to go to the gym to be physical), but you can also do volunteer work. Studies show volunteering makes people feel more fulfilled, and solo volunteer work may even be something you can do from home—think preparing meals for houseless people or making hats for preemie babies. The Japanese practice of “forest bathing” is a poetic term for something research has shown time and again: Spending time in nature is very good for us. Taking a solo hike in the woods is great, but movement isn’t necessary. You could knit in the park on your lunch break or watch flickers dig for ants in the backyard. It can also be a meditative experience, immersing yourself in the natural environment to allow you to take it in with all of your senses. Treat yourself to something special that you usually need company to justify, like dinner at a fancy restaurant or a ticket to the opera. And this doesn’t need to be expensive or even outside the home. You could cook a favorite meal, for instance, served on your good dishes. You don’t have to skimp on things you’d enjoy just because you’re flying solo.

Too Much Water

Drinking enough water to keep your body hydrated is essential for health, but too much can make you sick if your body can’t process all the fluid. Here’s a quick guide to know you’re drinking the right amount: • You’re drinking enough water if your urine is light-colored and you rarely feel thirsty – doctors say you should expel about 6.3 or more cups per day. • If you’re exercising, try to drink before and during exertion so you don’t drink too much at once. Too much fluid too quickly can deplete your body’s salt levels. A sports drink with electrolytes can help replenish the lost salts, but the real danger is too much water. Drink only when you feel thirsty. • More than one liter of water an hour is too much for most people. You can buy a liter water bottle and keep that with you during the day to better monitor your water intake.

Deal With Unlikeable People

Despite your best intentions to get along with the people you meet, occasionally you’ll encounter someone you simply do not like. If this happens to you, here are a few tips on how to proceed with tact.  Focus on the positive. Even though this person has habits or characteristics that drive you crazy, don’t focus too much on these negative attributes. Try to find something positive to focus on instead. Though this might be difficult, it will likely help you tolerate this person a bit better.  Be kind. It’s true what they say: Act the way you would like to be treated. You don’t need to go out of your way to be friends with an unlikeable person, but at least be nice. If you are polite and kind to him, perhaps his actions will eventually reflect yours. Also, don’t talk badly about him behind his back. Try to be truly kind. This is to help you stay positive and perhaps let go of the negative feelings completely. Love your neighbor as yourself!

Depression

Depression isn’t talked about often, but about 7% of adults in the United States (nearly 16 million people) have shown signs of being depressed in the past year. If you know someone who shows signs of depression, here are four tips to help your friend or loved one: 1. Recognize symptoms. Common signs include lack of interest in things the person used to enjoy, problems with sleeping, showing feelings of hopelessness, and withdrawal from daily activities and conversations. 2. Listen. Do not deny what the person has to say. Instead, validate their feelings. Keep in mind that speech may be slow and less coherent, so be patient. 3. Encourage them to find help. You can provide support and listen to their concerns, but a trained professional should assist with long-term care. Offer to help find information for mental health resources or make an appointment, if necessary. 4. Enlist help from others. If they are resistant, talk to other important people in their lives (such as family, clergy, or healthcare professionals) to ensure they get the help they need.

Fall Festivals in Washington State

Are you looking for something fun to do this fall? We have some great options around here. Consider taking a 3-day weekend and enjoy! • One Sky, One World Kite Festival – Long Beach. Let’s go fly a kite, nothing could be more fun on a windy day on the beach. Since 1986 thousands of people have attended. October 14th-15th • Fresh Hop Ale Festival - Yakima. Of course, it will be sunny and warm in early October, and it is THE must attend event for beer lovers. 70% of the world’s hops are grown in Yakima. October 7th -8th • OysterFest – Port of Shelton. If you’re hosting an out-of-town guest and want to show off our amazing fresh oysters, be sure to check this out! Entering its 41st year and crowning a shucking champion it will be a fun event! Aw Shucks – October 6th-8th • Oktoberfest - Leavenworth. No one knows more about hosting a truly memorable Octoberfest than the German themed town in the Cascade Mountains. The flower baskets will still be in full bloom and there is a ton of great lodging options and fun activities for the whole family. Three Weekends – Sept 29th-30th – Oct 6th-7th and 13th-14th

Charisma Boost

1. Be confident. When introducing yourself say your name and then tell something about yourself. This helps to draw a question from the other person, and can lead the person into a conversation with you. 2. Walk with purpose. Pause before entering a room and project confidence as you walk into the room. 3. Use the double hand shake. When you shake someone’s hand, use the two-handed grasp. While shaking with right hand, your left hand grasps the person’s arm at or below the elbow. 4. Focus on your goal. Charismatic people know what they want and are passionate about it. Focus on what you want and how to get there. 5. Be a good listener. Listen when other people talk. Value their opinions and make eye contact. Take the time to learn about the person you are talking to and make an effort to care about who they are.

5 Foods That Fill You Up

If you’re watching your weight, you can eat more than salad for breakfast, lunch and dinner. These foods will help fill you up, not out: • Oatmeal (not instant). It’s a healthy carb with a high fiber content. • Eggs. Eat them for breakfast and you’ll have about 330 calories less than usual throughout the rest of the day. • Dark chocolate. Researchers say compounds in dark chocolate slow down digestion and make you feel full longer. But don’t eat the whole bar! • Soup. A Pennsylvania State study showed that people who had two servings of low-calorie soup daily lost 50 percent more weight than those who ate the same number of calories in snack foods. Choose broth or vegetables, not the creamy variety. • Pine nuts. They contain pinolenic acid, which stimulates hormones that suppress your appetite. Plus, your mouth likes the crunch.

Furnace Tune-up Season

In just about 7-8 weeks you fire up the furnace and get ready for cold fall and winter days. A quality furnace should last more than 20yrs if you properly maintain it. A standard service is a couple hundred dollars and takes about an hour. Glendale Heating is the company I trust and have been recommending for many years. Glendale Heating will get your furnace ready for the season! 206-243-7700

Teach Healthy Habits

From choosing healthy meals to creating positive relationships, there are lots of little things adults can do every day to instill good habits in kids. Physical • Exercise regularly as a family, and make it fun! Go for evening walks in the park, take advantage of open swim days at the gym, and ride bikes together. • Eat a healthy diet. Start early with introducing a rainbow of produce and minimizing sugary snacks. Mental • Maintain – and reflect – a positive outlook. Kids mirror what they hear and see, so use positive reinforcement and praise appropriately. Celebrate your successes as well as theirs. • Keep screen time to a minimum. Sedentary behavior is known to increases risks for obesity and cardiovascular disease, and it’s not conducive to positive social or mental growth either. Set a daily limit for TV viewing, video games, and smartphone usage and stick to it. • Read every day. Incorporate this habit into playtime or bedtime routines to help build self-esteem and success later in life. Social • Encourage kids to explore a myriad of activities to find one (or more!) they really enjoy. Whether singing in a choir, playing soccer, taking language lessons, or volunteering with a youth group, kids will meet others with similar interests while also developing their self-identity. • Eat dinner as a family, and use this opportunity to maintain open lines of communication with everyone around the table.

Bottled Water

You’ve likely heard that bottled water has major environmental consequences, but how bad is the problem? Here are a few facts from thewaterproject.org that illustrate the severity of the situation: • Approximately 80% of single-use water bottles in the U.S. become “litter,” and one bottle takes more than 1,000 years to bio-degrade. • U.S. landfills have two million tons of discarded water bottles in them. • It takes three liters of water to package one liter of bottled water. In response to the bottled water problem, some cities and businesses have banned it, but what can you do? • Skip the single-use water bottle, and invest in a reusable water bottle. If you forget it, buy multiples to keep in vehicles, the office, and your gym bag. • Drink tap water. Several studies have been done to show municipal tap water is usually just as safe as bottled water. • Refrigerate water. Cooling tap water helps remove the chlorine taste many people feel is in tap water. • Boil water if you are concerned water might be contaminated.

Organized Kitchen

From that first bowl of cereal to the final midnight snack, kitchens are among the most used rooms in the house. Organize it now to make it easy to get around and find what you need later.  Separate dedicated areas. Keep areas for prepping, cooking, and storing food, and then keep similar items – such as baking equipment – together within each of these places.  Store items in clear containers. Small items like tea bags and gravy mixes should be stored with like items in a storage unit that can be easily identified with a quick peek.  Invest in risers and drawer dividers. It’s much easier to access cookware and dishes in cabinets if they’re sorted and stacked on risers. Ditto for small items separated using drawer dividers.  Think seasonally. If you don’t use that crock pot in the summer or the ice tea container in the winter, tuck them out of sight and out of mind until the proper season rolls back around.  Look for a lazy Susan. On countertops, they can be used for oils, spices, and other ingredients you might need at a moment’s notice. And in the pantry, use them to store cans, jars, and condiments.

Help Kids Save Money

All adults know that money doesn’t grow on trees, but that’s not necessarily true for kids. Help your kids, grandkids, or other children in your life tuck away their extra nickels and dimes for a rainy day. 1. Bank it. Encourage kids to decorate four separate piggy banks – one each for Saving, Spending, Investing, and Giving – to help teach about setting money-related goals. Investing money will be used for future investments and Giving money can be donated to a charity of the kids’ choice. 2. Offer an allowance. Assuming you are helping your own children save money, provide a small allowance so there is something to put into the piggy banks. Give the allowance in small bills or coins so kids can physically hold and drop equal amounts of cash into each piggy bank. 3. Make goals. If there are certain things kids want to buy, or if they are expected to save a certain amount of money toward larger items such as bikes, explain that they’ll need to use the Saving piggy bank to collect the needed money. And, if they choose not to spend money out of the Spending piggy bank right away, they’ll be able to buy the items they’re saving for faster. 4. Go shopping. When you go to the store, let the kids take their Spending money with them. If they want to buy something, count out change in the store. Feel free to remind them that, if there is something more expensive they’d like to buy, they’ll have to continue to save for it – and they’ll reach their goals faster by moving Spending money into the Saving piggy bank. However, if they want to buy something, that is their choice as this is their money.

Garage Sale Tips

Ready to get rid of clutter? Use these tips to hold the best garage sale this summer:  Plan ahead and publicize everywhere. Use CraigsList.org, word-of-mouth, emails to friends, and spend some time on legible signs that guide people to your home.  Get your kids to donate items and participate in the sale. Team up with neighbors so you’ll have more to offer.  Arrange items by category (books, clothes, etc.) and put some of your sure-to-sell items up front (in the driveway) to draw customers in.  Make sure every item is clean and reasonably priced. A rule of thumb is one-half to one-third of the original price, depending on the item. Be prepared to negotiate – everyone wants a bargain.  Get some music going (plus snacks) to keep things lively.

Book Recommendations

If you are like me you are always looking for your next book to read. Here are my top ten. 1. On The Beach – Nevil Shute 2. A Golfers Life – Palmer-Dodson 3. Cobb – Al Stump 4. A Course Called Ireland – Tom Coyne 5. Grapes of Wrath – Steinbeck 6. The Worst Hard Time – Timothy Egan 7. Able Seacat Simon – Lynne Barrett-Lee 8. Les Miserables – Hugo 9. Empire of the Summer Moon – S.C. Gwynne 10. Blood and Thunder – Hampton Sides

Three-Minute Meditation

One extremely refreshing getaway is meditation – and best of all, you don't have to pack for it. Research from the University of California, Davis, suggests that regular mindfulness meditation may slow the rate of cellular aging – potentially giving you more precious time than you ever dreamed of. Here’s how to mediate in 3-minutes: 1. Find a peaceful place where you won’t be interrupted. 2. Gently rest your palm over your heart. Concentrate on a person, place, song, or memory you cherish. The idea is to feel love and to concentrate it as energy in your mid-chest. 3. Visualize any thoughts as clouds drifting in the sky. Let them float by and out of your awareness. 4. Observe the sensations in your heart area: heat, coolness, bliss, compassion, release of pressure, vibration. Over time and with practice, you’ll feel the positive energy in your chest that will flow into your body.

Likeability

Being liked puts you on the fast track to success in everything you do. You are naturally likable by being genuine and sincere, but here are some simple tips that can give you a psychological advantage and result in people liking you even more: • Like yourself first. Be confident in your strengths. Your likability increases as you increase your ability to like yourself. Smiling and sharing your positivity will bring out the same in others. • Maintain eye contact during conversations but keep it in balance (about 60 percent of the time). Nod your head when you’re speaking and people will be inclined to agree with you. • Demonstrate that you like people. Remember their names and use them. (One trick to remembering names is to say the name to someone else.) If you ask a question, give the person time to respond. Remaining silent and waiting for an answer can be especially useful in negotiations. • Learn active listening. Do this by a) paying attention; b) using body language to show you’re interested; c) giving feedback, such as rephrasing what a person says to you to show that you understood them; d) asking questions, but not interrupting; and e) giving your opinion respectfully. If you disagree with someone, look for ways to find common ground. • Don’t overdo it. You don’t need everyone to like you to be successful. Aim to increase your likability factor to the people who matter to you (and your success) most.

Disc Golf

Frisbee golf has been around since the 1960’s but has gained significant popularity in the past few years and the numbers of courses have doubled since 2000. There are now over 3000 courses in the U.S. and there are courses in over 40 countries around the world. Most courses do not charge a fee to play and you can buy a new disk for around $15, which is nice. The object is much like normal golf where you traverse the course in the fewest throws and finish the hole at a target / basket. I was introduced and play mostly with Josh at Lakewood Park in Burien but we have played a few other courses around the state. We always play a match to see who will buy a beer Disk Golf is great exercise and lots of fun! You don’t have to be good to enjoy the game and it’s great for kids.

Keep Your Car's Value Up

Buying a car is an investment, giving you and your family independence and freedom. But, conversely, it’s a depreciative asset, meaning cars lose value from the moment you drive out of the dealer’s parking lot. However, there are some tips and tricks to help your car keep its value so when it comes time to upgrade, you’ll still have some bargaining power: • Buy a reliable car: cars like Subarus and Toyotas hold more value over time. That’s because they tend to be more reliable, are more fuel efficient, have more safety features, and boast low maintenance costs. Be sure to do your research before making a purchase. Websites like Kelley Blue Book (www.kbb.com) and Edmunds (www. edmunds.com) will provide good comparison information. • Keep up appearances: wash and wax your car regularly to maintain the paint work and prevent scratches. Keep the interior clean by vacuuming and removing any stains from the upholstery and changing your oil regularly. A well-maintained car will also command a higher asking price. • Keep records: always keep receipts from repairs, and maintain service logs, so that the buyer has a full history of the car. Check your CARFAX report to see what’s on record about your car before you sell (www.carfax.com/vehicle-history-reports). • Avoid odors: allowing pets in the car is going to eventually make the car smell, especially if they get in while wet. Ensure you keep smells to a minimum by toweling off dogs before they get in the car and using seat protectors or cargo liners where your dogs travel. • Maintain tires: follow the manufacturer’s instructions to maintain the correct air pressure in your tires, have them rotated regularly to ensure even wear, and be mindful of the tread when selling the car. You may want to buy new tires before selling, as a potential buyer will feel like they’re saving money and be more likely to pay your asking price.

Buying a car is an investment, giving you and your family independence and freedom. But, conversely, it’s a depreciative asset, meaning cars lose value from the moment you drive out of the dealer’s parking lot. However, there are some tips and tricks to help your car keep its value so when it comes time to upgrade, you’ll still have some bargaining power: • Buy a reliable car: cars like Subarus and Toyotas hold more value over time. That’s because they tend to be more reliable, are more fuel efficient, have more safety features, and boast low maintenance costs. Be sure to do your research before making a purchase. Websites like Kelley Blue Book (www.kbb.com) and Edmunds (www. edmunds.com) will provide good comparison information. • Keep up appearances: wash and wax your car regularly to maintain the paint work and prevent scratches. Keep the interior clean by vacuuming and removing any stains from the upholstery and changing your oil regularly. A well-maintained car will also command a higher asking price. • Keep records: always keep receipts from repairs, and maintain service logs, so that the buyer has a full history of the car. Check your CARFAX report to see what’s on record about your car before you sell (www.carfax.com/vehicle-history-reports). • Avoid odors: allowing pets in the car is going to eventually make the car smell, especially if they get in while wet. Ensure you keep smells to a minimum by toweling off dogs before they get in the car and using seat protectors or cargo liners where your dogs travel. • Maintain tires: follow the manufacturer’s instructions to maintain the correct air pressure in your tires, have them rotated regularly to ensure even wear, and be mindful of the tread when selling the car. You may want to buy new tires before selling, as a potential buyer will feel like they’re saving money and be more likely to pay your asking price.

Pain and Fatigue

From aching joints to general fatigue, sometimes we’re plagued by symptoms, but we don’t know what the medical problem could be at the root of our pain. Here are a few health issues that could be causing your problems, and a few “quick tips” that may help. 1. Backaches – An old mattress can cause back pain, but you may want to have your doctor check your vitamin D levels – a deficiency can cause back and joint pain. A daily supplement can help if that’s the culprit. Weakened vertebrae, muscle fatigue, and back spasms may be eased with daily stretching, yoga, and hot and cold therapy applied via heating pads and ice packs (see your doctor for help with how to use this correctly). 2. Aching joints – Pain sensitivity is particularly acute for women who have gone through menopause. If you eat tomatoes, eggplant, potatoes, dairy, and/or gluten, keep a food diary to see if food sensitivity is a culprit of your pain. 3. Lethargy and fatigue – Remaining alert and awake ensures you’re working at your highest levels of productivity. If you’re also suffering from sensitivity to cold and unexplained weight gain, hypothyroidism could be to blame. Of course, poor sleep could be at fault; get 30 minutes of aerobic exercise every day to increase levels of deep sleep. 4. Foot pain – Though gout affects joints throughout the body, the most common place for this painful condition to occur is the base of the big toe. Pain concentrated in the heel or arch of the foot may result from plantar fasciitis. Ditch the high heels and tight-fitting shoes, and lose excess weight to help decrease pain. Alcohol and stress can increase gout flare-ups.

Enjoy Your Own Company

Although the idea of “me time” has become more popular, there are people who equate being alone with loneliness—and no one wants that. Solitude can seem hard to find if you live in a busy city or a crowded house, but intentionally carving out time for yourself can have positive mental and physical health benefits. If, that is, you embrace being alone. Experts say that if being alone is your choice, you’re much more likely to enjoy the solitude and less likely to succumb to loneliness. But this doesn’t mean you have to become a hermit to be happy alone. It means you’re able to find happiness in solo pursuits of your choosing— exercising, birdwatching, creating art, or even working. If you struggle to do something you love when you’re alone, you may want to try an activity that boosts endorphin levels. After all, if you’re getting a happiness high from the activity, you’re more apt to do it again. Physical activity like gardening or beachcombing can work here (you don’t have to go to the gym to be physical), but you can also do volunteer work. Studies show volunteering makes people feel more fulfilled, and solo volunteer work may even be something you can do from home—think preparing meals for houseless people or making hats for preemie babies. The Japanese practice of “forest bathing” is a poetic term for something research has shown time and again: Spending time in nature is very good for us. Taking a solo hike in the woods is great, but movement isn’t necessary. You could knit in the park on your lunch break or watch flickers dig for ants in the backyard. It can also be a meditative experience, immersing yourself in the natural environment to allow you to take it in with all of your senses. Treat yourself to something special that you usually need company to justify, like dinner at a fancy restaurant or a ticket to the opera. And this doesn’t need to be expensive or even outside the home. You could cook a favorite meal, for instance, served on your good dishes. You don’t have to skimp on things you’d enjoy just because you’re flying solo.

Landscape Maintenance Checklist

In the spring:  Remove leaves, sticks, and debris that collected throughout winter.  Prepare garden beds for the season.  Do a maintenance check on drainage systems and outdoor lighting. In the summer:  Raise mower height to at least three inches.  Mulch flower beds as soil dries out.  Apply fertilizer to lawn mid-summer, if necessary. In the fall:  Mulch around perennials and plants that need extra insulation.  Winterize sprinkler system by draining and turn off watering timer.  Clean up all leaf and plant debris from yard and garden. In the winter:  Cut grass until temperature drops below 50 degrees F.  Use winter snow fences or burlap to protect plants from wind and salt.  Lubricate hand gardening tools to prevent rust.

Number #1 Source Of Calories

How many soft drinks or other sugar-added drink do you consume a day? One, two, five, or more? There’s an alarming trend occurring in the American diet—soft drinks and other sugar-added drinks are becoming the main source of calories. According to researchers at Tufts University, the average American consumes enough sweet drinks each day that add up to more calories than any other food source. In the study, researchers collected data to study the relationship between obesity and certain foods. What they found was shocking! Two-thirds of the people sampled reported that they consumed enough sweet drinks to provide them with more daily calories than any other food source. Want to lose weight? Limit your sweet drinks.

Seattle Parks and Rec

Seattle Parks and Recreation was formed in 1887 to manage city owned parks, open spaces, Woodland Park Zoo, The Seattle Aquarium, numerous boat launches and community centers. We have over 6,200 acres of property to maintain which is equivalent to roughly 11% of the city’s total area. The departments total budget is well over $100 million dollars per year! The largest park in Seattle is Discovery Park which has 534 acres of land in the Magnolia neighborhood. The park is built on the historic grounds of Fort Lawton. Our oldest park is Denny Park which was donated in 1861 by pioneer David Denny. One of my favorite parks is hidden Schmitz Park which was donated to the city in 1908 and holds the largest remaining tract of old growth forest left in the city. If you make the effort and walk the trial system, you will feel miles away from the big city. I hope you will make some plans to enjoy one of our beautiful parks this summer!

Outdoor Adventure Websites

Why sit inside when a world of adventure waits out your front door? www.rei.com – In addition to selling gear, REI offers an array of classes (many of them free) to help prepare you for everything from cycling and hiking to camping and climbing. www.geartrade.com – Gear can be pricey, but you can buy it used for a fraction of the price at this site. www.nps.gov – Find a U.S. National Park near you to begin exploring today.

Websites For Fun

You’re probably familiar with theonion.com, but consider these other sites for interesting tidbits and laughs: www.mentalfloss.com – Articles cover unusual topics from “performing the Star Wars theme on a calculator” to “how to kill bed bugs.” www.howstuffworks.com – Do you wonder how airbags really work? Find out here. www.maps.google.com – Click on the “Pegman” in the right-hand corner and browse Street View images. Search locations around the world and you’ll see amazing things.

Be Grateful

We would all rather be happy if given the choice. In some cases, our state of happiness can be a conscious choice we make to focus on the positive things in our lives. Learning to be grateful in your daily life is a surprisingly effective way to improve your health and overall happiness. The benefits of being grateful can be huge. Studies show that people who are more grateful sleep better, feel healthier, have higher self-esteem, have more energy, and experience less stress. Staying grateful isn’t always easy, but with all these physical and mental benefits it’s absolutely worth the investment of your time. Here are some easy ways to practice gratitude on a regular basis. Try out a few of them to see which suits you best. • Keep a “gratitude journal” to jot down 1-2 things you’re grateful for daily. • Actively work on cultivating positivity by looking for a bright side to negative situations. • Pay someone an unexpected complement each day. • Talk about 2-3 positive moments from the day during nightly dinner conversation. • Offer a heartfelt – not routine – “thank you” for a mundane task, such as someone holding a door open for you at the store. • Say out loud what you’re grateful for, even if you’re talking to yourself. • Put a picture of your family, or whatever you’re most thankful for, somewhere you’ll see it multiple times a day. • Donate your time to a favorite cause. Monetary donations are great, but donating your time is even more effective at making you feel grateful.

Make Family Your First Priority

1. Strong families spend lots of quality time together. We’ve all heard the well-known quote, “How do kids spell love?” T-I-M-E! Strong families spend lots of positive time working on family projects and playing together. 2. Appreciate One Other. Strong families appreciate each other’s unique qualities and contributions and express their feelings openly. Make a commitment to compliment each other at least once each day. 3. Foster Communication. Strong families listen to each other, respect each other’s opinions, and avoid interrupting. One of the most valuable ways to foster communication is by having at least one meal together each day. Do your best to set an example by putting away your phone or computer during meal time. 4. Strengthen Commitment. Strong families work together to solve their problems. They may not always agree, but they are willing and able to bring things out into the open and to talk about them. 5. Create Traditions. Strong families stay connected – another reason for having at least one meal together each day. Also, give your children the gift of friendship with their cousins, aunts, and uncles by keeping in touch regularly. 6. Set Rules and Expectations. Strong families set and put into practice clear guidelines and limitations. Family members take responsibility for their actions. Give grace and grace will follow.

Camping Tips: Safety First

There’s nothing like a camping trip to truly get away from it all. Make your next camping adventure more calm than calamitous with these important safety tips. • Know the weather forecast, current fire danger level, and how to handle local insects and wildlife you might encounter. • Ask for tips, information, and any current warnings from park staff. • Prepare for the elements with sunscreen and a wide-brimmed hat in hot weather and warm layers in cold weather. • Bring a first-aid kit and insect repellent and be prepared for emergencies. • Pack plenty of water (or a way to purify water) and stay hydrated. • Allow at least two hours of daylight to scout a safe spot and set up camp. • Practice fire safety. Never cook in an enclosed space (carbon monoxide is odorless) or leave a fire unattended. • Learn how to store food overnight to keep wildlife at bay. • Know how to properly strike your camp, leaving no trash behind. • Notify someone of where you’ll be and when you plan to return, especially if you’re camping solo or will be out of cell phone range.

Talking To Your Kids About The News

We’re all exposed to a barrage of news from the media and internet 24/7. While access to information is good, many of the stories and images -- from school violence to natural disasters like the earthquake in Haiti -- may be disturbing to kids. Here are tips to help allay their fears and put the news in perspective:  Be aware of what they’re watching and monitor age appropriateness. Kids between the ages of 6 and 10 are most vulnerable to the news.  Watch the news together. Discuss current events and listen to what your child has to say about them.  Be sensitive to how you respond to a news event. Kids are always listening, even if they’re in the other room.  Talk about how you can help, particularly in the case of natural disasters. For information and guidance, go to www.pbs.org/parents.

Student Loans

Even if they’re financially savvy, a lot of Americans continue to carry student loan debt with them for years after they’ve graduated from college. Use these strategies to shake off that heavy financial burden: • Make it a priority. Yes, you have a lot of bills to pay, but focus on paying off student loans so you can turn your attention to saving for retirement. • Create a repayment plan that works. Make sure the date your student loan payment is due works with your monthly budget, and consolidate your loans so you only need to make one monthly payment. • Focus on variable private loans. The interest rates on these loans can quickly change, so pay as much toward them as possible while also putting at least a minimum monthly contribution toward fixed-rate federal loans. • Sign up for auto-deductions. If you opt for auto-deductions, you won’t accidentally miss a payment date. Plus, all government and some private lenders charge a slightly lower interest rate if you pay this way.

Gas Leaks

Natural gas leaks can be extremely dangerous—and because it’s naturally odorless, that familiar “rotten egg” scent is added to alert you as soon as possible about a gas leak. But there are some things that can make that warning smell weaker so you may not notice it quickly. • There is the danger of a spark causing a fire, of course, but natural gas poisoning is also possible if a gas leak goes undetected. Some of the symptoms include nosebleeds, headaches, chest pain, ringing in the ears, and dizziness. Pay attention to your pet’s behavior, too, as things like lethargy and vomiting may mean they have gas poisoning, too. • You should check all your gas appliances regularly to make sure the pilot lights are on (they should be blue with a yellow tip), and it’s not a bad idea to have your gas lines checked by a professional. In addition to your home’s smoke alarms, you might also want to install natural gas and carbon monoxide detectors to help with early alerts. • If you detect a leak, immediately open the windows, turn off electronic devices, and shut off the gas. Then call the gas company. Don’t go back inside until they say it’s safe to do so.

Sunscreen Benefits

It doesn’t just keep your skin from burning. A new study shows that using sunscreen every day decreases skin aging by 24 percent. Plus, look for the words “broad spectrum” on the new FDA-required label. That means the product will protect you against both UVA and UVB radiation. If a label has a high SPF but doesn’t say “broad spectrum,” then it’s not necessarily screening your skin from the longer UVA wavelengths. Sunscreens that aren’t broad spectrum, or have an SPF lower than 15, now have to include a scary warning on the label.

Solar in Seattle

The short answer is YES! The long dry summer days have the potential to make up for the dreary weather we get much of the year. According to a Google Project Sunroof analysis, which estimates viability based on Google Earth imagery approximately 85% of buildings in Seattle are solar viable. Look for incentive programs. There is a federal tax credit for homeowners who install a solar photovoltaic (solar) system before December 31, 2023. Learn more about the federal tax credit at energy.gov/eere/solar/homeowners-guide-federal-tax-credit-solar-photovoltaics Get competitive bids. The EnergySage site (energysage.com/) lets you see multiple bids from solar providers. There are more than 500 companies in the site’s database, all of which have been pre-screened. Use the solar calculator. EnergySage also has what it calls a “Solar Calculator” (energysage.com/solar/calculator/), which gives you an estimate of what your potential monthly savings might be if you added solar panels to your house based on your current monthly electric bill. Consider leasing. Buying outright is increasingly popular with homeowners, but leasing solar panels is also an option. With a lease, you don’t pay for the system or its installation. If you end up generating more energy than your house consumes, Washington State even allow you to sell some of that energy back to the grid. Once you’ve calculated your monthly savings and gotten a bid, you can see how long it will take until you recoup your upfront costs.