Outdoor Living Ideas

Here are some ideas to create your own welcoming areas for outdoor living this spring and summer.  Add visual interest to an outdoor space with brightly painted planters or colorful throw pillows. They’re easy to update when your favorite color changes, and small enough to add more whenever you like.  Dual-purpose furniture is useful in a small outdoor space. For instance, bench seating that’s also storage and a table that has a planter underneath reduce the furniture footprint without sacrificing utility.  Walkways invite exploration into a larger yard and keep guests from accidentally stepping on seedlings. Curving walkways through trees or bushes can also create more intimate spaces for entertaining without overcrowding in one spot.  Your indoor fireplace is probably a focal point, so why not give your backyard a similar treatment? Digging a fire pit into your lawn is an inexpensive option. If you don’t want to give up that space in your yard permanently, there are also movable fire pit units you can buy, allowing you to store them when they’re not in use.  Creative outdoor lighting not only provides a warm glow, but it also means you can use your outdoor space into the night. Simple DIY solutions include strings of outdoor globe string lights around the porch, small white fairy lights wrapped around tree trunks, or candles in Mason jars twinkling on tables. For an even bigger “wow” factor, wire a chandelier over an outdoor dining table.  Combine outdoor lighting and pest control in one. Fill mason jars with fresh rosemary sprigs, slices of limes or lemons, and about 10 drops of lavender essential oil. Add water and a floating candle to the top. Mosquitos don’t like the smell, but you will.

Likeability

Being liked puts you on the fast track to success in everything you do. You are naturally likable by being genuine and sincere, but here are some simple tips that can give you a psychological advantage and result in people liking you even more: • Like yourself first. Be confident in your strengths. Your likability increases as you increase your ability to like yourself. Smiling and sharing your positivity will bring out the same in others. • Maintain eye contact during conversations but keep it in balance (about 60 percent of the time). Nod your head when you’re speaking and people will be inclined to agree with you. • Demonstrate that you like people. Remember their names and use them. (One trick to remembering names is to say the name to someone else.) If you ask a question, give the person time to respond. • Active listening. Do this by a) paying attention; b) using body language to show you’re interested; c) giving feedback, such as rephrasing what a person says to you to show that you understood them; d) asking questions, but not interrupting; and e) giving your opinion respectfully. If you disagree with someone, look for ways to find common ground. • Don’t overdo it. You don’t need everyone to like you to be successful. Aim to increase your likability factor to the people who matter to you (and your success) most.

Hopeful

With a healthy dose of hope, people can power through stress, feel empowered to chase their dreams, and find a beacon of light when the going gets tough in this new year. Research has shown that hopeful patients heal faster, and hopeful employees are more satisfied with their jobs. Conversely, people who aren’t hopeful often feel sluggish and have little motivation and energy. So how can you amp up the hope in your life? Read on! Seek mastery: Obtaining mastery provides a sense of empowerment and purpose, instilling a sense of hope. Expand your skill set by imagining what you want to achieve and make plans to reach those goals. Write down steps you need to follow to get the results you seek. Find role models: If you suffer from a sense of hopelessness, find people who have overcome similar situations to yours. Learn from their experiences. Surround yourself with others who can help you through particularly trying times. If you don’t know anyone personally, check projecthopeexchange.com for support. Evaluate options: Feeling trapped can stifle hope. During those times when you feel stuck, think about how you’ve handled similar situations in the past or how similar strategies from different situations can help you with this particular issue. Make a plan…even a few steps you can take right now can give you something concrete to focus on. Give hope to others: Perform small acts of kindness. By doing so, you offer hope to others, and this can help boost your mood and outlook on life … and increase your feelings of hope in the process. The positive effects of acts of kindness build on each other, so make this a part of your daily routine instead of following a one-and-done approach

Time to Serve Others - The Classic its better to give than receive

” Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth” – Muhammad Ali. Serving others doesn’t just help the people we’re supporting, it often enriches our own lives in powerful ways. Just think of how much support you have received from people like your grandparents, parents, and close personal friendships and it is easy to see how you can repay that by making a commitment to be in service of other people in your life. Here are just a few of the benefits: 1. Happiness and fulfillment. Acts of service stimulate the release of feel-good brain chemicals like dopamine which boost mood and create a lasting sense of purpose in your life. 2. Stronger relationships. Helping others builds trust, empathy and connection, expanding your social circle and deepening existing bonds. 3. Improved health. Studies show that people who volunteer or regularly serve others have lower rates of depression and even some chronic illnesses. 4. Sense of meaning. Being part of something bigger than yourself provides a deeper reason to get up each day. We all have something special to share with others. There is always someone in more need than us. “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked” Luke 12:48 If you look around, you will see countless examples of people giving to others, paying it forward and making the world just a little better. A better world ultimately benefits everyone, including us. “Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time and always start with the person that is nearest to you”. – Mother Teresa

Simple Relationship Tips

A happy, healthy relationship with your significant other doesn’t ride on fancy flowers, heart-shaped chocolates, and an annual celebration on your anniversary. In fact, sometimes it’s the small things that mean the most in a relationship with your loved one. Start small with these ideas. Set the smartphone down. Offer your undivided attention with time set aside for the two of you – no phones allowed! Perhaps this is over dinner in the evenings, in the bedroom, or on a once-a-week date night out (or in). Say thank you. Don’t take your partner for granted. Acknowledge and appreciate even the small things like cooking dinner or doing the dishes. Do something he/she likes to do. Embrace your partner’s differences. Next time you choose a movie together or look for a weekend activity, get out of your comfort zone and try something that’s not generally your style. And, the time after that, encourage your partner to do the same.

Fitter Than You Think

In fact, you may just be fitter than you think – and I can prove it! You stand and sit. Active people feel the need to get up and move around throughout the day. Getting in and out of a car involves basic squat movements, and you should be able to do this without pain. You constantly carry stuff. Whether you’re picking up and carrying children or shouldering a massive bag to and from work, those pounds add up to a healthy dose of weightlifting! You recover quickly. Take a short jog, try a few squat exercises, or just walk at a steady pace for a while. Are you tired and worn out, or could you endure a bit more? A healthy recovery time is a good indicator of physical fitness. You do household chores. Carrying laundry down the stairs requires balance. Navigating several tasks in the kitchen while avoiding dropping, burning, or falling is proof of coordination and dexterity. You take the stairs. If you can walk or run up and down stairs without feeling lightheaded or out of breath, you’re probably in decent aerobic shape. You crave healthy habits. It’s a good sign if you seek out exercise simply because it makes you feel good. Ditto if you prefer to eat healthily as well just because you want to not because you feel guilty.

Flying Solo

Although the idea of “me time” has become more popular, there are people who equate being alone with loneliness—and no one wants that. Solitude can seem hard to find if you live in a busy city or a crowded house, but intentionally carving out time for yourself can have positive mental and physical health benefits. If, that is, you embrace being alone. Experts say that if being alone is your choice, you’re much more likely to enjoy the solitude and less likely to succumb to loneliness. But this doesn’t mean you have to become a hermit to be happy alone. It means you’re able to find happiness in solo pursuits of your choosing— exercising, birdwatching, creating art, or even working. If you struggle to do something you love when you’re alone, you may want to try an activity that boosts endorphin levels. After all, if you’re getting a happiness high from the activity, you’re more apt to do it again. Physical activity like gardening or beachcombing can work here (you don’t have to go to the gym to be physical), but you can also do volunteer work. Studies show volunteering makes people feel more fulfilled, and solo volunteer work may even be something you can do from home—think preparing meals for houseless people or making hats for preemie babies. The Japanese practice of “forest bathing” is a poetic term for something research has shown time and again: Spending time in nature is very good for us. Taking a solo hike in the woods is great, but movement isn’t necessary. You could knit in the park on your lunch break or watch flickers dig for ants in the backyard. It can also be a meditative experience, immersing yourself in the natural environment to allow you to take it in with all of your senses. Treat yourself to something special that you usually need company to justify, like dinner at a fancy restaurant or a ticket to the opera. And this doesn’t need to be expensive or even outside the home. You could cook a favorite meal, for instance, served on your good dishes. You don’t have to skimp on things you’d enjoy just because you’re flying solo.